To all the new parents out there wondering if your relationship can survive, I just want to tell you you're not alone. Yes, having a new baby is a precious blessing, and one that should not be taken for granted. But who expected it to take such a toll? And if you're like most of us, you may have expected that a baby would bring you and your spouse together, not make you feel like strangers living in the same home.
Yes, research tells us that marital satisfaction can take a dive when a new baby enters the home. But whatever comfort can be sought from knowing you are in good company, it may still leave us thinking... now what?
Well, I can't tell you to read long books or take a long weekend away, because that isn't realistic. But what I can suggest is that you find some moments in the day to remember that before you were the mother or father of this precious baby (who spits up all day long and screams all night long-- so precious!), you were probably a wife or husband with time to devote to your marriage. And even though time is scarce these days, it is essential to give some of it (minutes or even seconds will do until that baby figures out how to sleep) to your relationship.
Here are some ideas for tired new parents whose relationships need some attention:
You get the idea. It doesn't take much time or energy, just the realization that any relationship, no matter how strong, needs some nurturing to thrive.